"All say 'How hard it is that we have to die' - a strange complaint to come from the mouths of people who have had to live." - Mark Twain
How do I deal with death or the loss of a loved one?
Death is something all humans have in common. At some point, we will all face it, whether we are dealing with the loss of a loved one, or our own deaths.
Two areas to consider:
Finding peace in your own mortality
Dealing with the loss of a loved one
Finding peace in our own mortality
Casues of anxiety - FEAR
Fear of the unknown – The Afterlife. Figure out what you believe and don’t be satisfied until you’re convinced.
Fear of pain and turmoil. It will be what it will be. It may be quick and painless; you may not even see it coming, or it may be uncomfortable, even painful. Unless it’s something you’re currently going through, there’s just know way to know. Don’t let a fear of this control you. While we should try to be safe and use caution, we should still live and enjoy life. Living in constant fear of what might happen is not living at all.
Fear of who we’re leaving behind. People can and will find a way to survive. The always have. In order to leave a great legacy, don’t just DO for the ones you love, but TEACH them so that they may carry on your knowledge after you have passed on.
Fear of leaving things undone. Prioritize the things that are the most important to you and start there. It’s all you can do because you are just one person. If it’s really important work, appointing a person you trust to succeed you will help.
Dealing with the loss of a loved one
Recognize these things:
Death is a part of life. It happens to us all.
Cherish and savor the moments with the ones you love. Do it now so that you can have great, strong memories later.
It’s okay to cry. Man or woman, young or old, tears are sometimes needed. So don’t allow yourself or anyone else to tell you not to cry for as long as you need to. Everyone deals with loss in their own way.
Grief is a season and will pass. It is a part of finding closure. Like crying, allow it unless it begins to control you and negatively affect you in a permanent way.
Ask yourself what they would want you to do. Most, if not all, of your loved ones would tell you to move on after a time and not allow their passing to be the end of your life.
Time eventually heals. Time has a great way of helping pain to fade, while allowing the memories to remain. Take comfort in that.
The issue of heaven and hell, or “Will I ever see them again?”
That is a question that can only be answered individually. For me as a Christian, I firmly believe in the life, sacrifice in death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ as the one and only way to eternal life. That is good news for me as I deal with the loss of fellow Christians, and bad news for me as I deal with the loss of those who have rejected Christ. I understand the intolerance in this belief, but it is my personal belief system. As far as your comfort on this side of death, it will depend on your personal beliefs. I was asked my thoughts on these subjects by a listener, and so I have to be truthful. However, just because I believe this way, does not mean that I don’t respect your system of belief. We don’t have to agree. But as for me, the issue of heaven and hell is real and final.
These are deep, sensitive issues. They are hard to handle, especially when sharing them with someone who is worried about their own mortality or someone who is dealing with the loss of a loved one.
In the next episode, we’ll talk about how to help others deal with
"Basically, radio hasn't changed over the years. Despite all the technical improvements, it all boils down to a man or a woman and a microphone, playing music, sharing stories, talking about issues - communicating with an audience." - Casey Kasem
What is it like behind the scenes of a radio station?
I can answer that question because much of my time right after high school and for years forward was spent behind the control board and microphone of a radio station control room. The things that happened during those times and the people I met were, and still are, responsible for a large part of who I am today. Here is just a sampling of stories about four people from my Radio Days.
Kevin. Taught me a great deal about being a good jock and how to deal with listeners and fans in a friendly way. Kevin has passed on, but his memory and his influence will always be a part of me.
Sandy. My #1 fan. This wheelchair bound angel taught me so much about unconditional love and to this day remains one of the most profound influencers in my life. She used to call me her Prince of Late Night. Maybe now I can be her Prince of Podcasting.
Michelle. The pseudonym my wife took on during a time that she secretly worked for two different radio stations at the same time. One of those stations had her live opposite me just down the road during the same day part.
Joe. From the moment we first met, Joe and I have had a strong bond. He is my brother in Christ and a stable voice in my ear.
What are your thoughts and stories? Call the voicemail line at 706-408-7456 or email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
“Living is strife and torment, disappointment and love and sacrifice, golden sunsets and black storms. I said that some time ago, and today I do not think I would add one word.” - Sir Laurence Olivier
It’s a fact of life and one we cannot escape – disappointment by the people around us. There isn’t a way to avoid being let down from time to time, but there are ways to make the experience one that can be learned from and there are things we can do to ease the pain and find a silver lining.
Here are 5 things you can do to handle the pain of being let down:
It’s all about flushing away the negatives. Follow these 5 points, and hopefully, you can see brighter days if someone lets you down.
This week’s Positive Review: Bayer Back & Body
Don’t forget to get in touch with me if you have anything to add or a story to tell. Contact me via the hotline at 706-408-7456 or via email: email@example.com
Should I start Christmas shopping now?
I have a good reason for doing a Christmas episode in October. To those who know me, it’s no secret that I would do Christmas 365 days a year. That’s no exaggeration. I love it that much. But Christmas can be a strain on the pocket book and when that happens, it’s not so fun.
I’ve put together some ways I think you can do Christmas on a budget and help ease the burden, if that’s what you need, allowing for a stress free and enjoyable holiday season.
Here’s how to do Christmas without breaking the bank!
I’ve broken the process down into three categories:
Christmas doesn’t need to be – it shouldn’t be – a chore or stressful. All it takes is planning ahead and in doing so, you’ll find your holiday experience to be richer and one that will enable you to focus on the reason the season was begun in the first place; the birth of our Savior.
This week’s Positive Review: The QT chain of convenience stores