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Road Noise - Life one mile at a time with business owner, author, and professional artist, Michael Blackston

A life journal podcast from the viewpoint of a Christian husband, father, author, professional artist, and business owner. Topics range from opinions about every day family value issues and spirituality to helpful tactics that help make life easier and beyond. Michael is a southern story teller and cherishes the opportunity to help others through their struggles by sharing his own experiences. You're invited to come on along and join him in learning to live life one mile at a time.
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Sep 30, 2016
How To Be Self Critical In A Positive Way - RN 051

"One should never criticize his own work except in a fresh and hopeful mood. The self-criticism of a tired mind is suicide." - Charles Horton Cooley

How do you evaluate yourself in a good way?

Critiquing yourself and your performance in any field is a necessary thing we have to do on occasion in order to grow. But most of the time, we are too hard on ourselves and can hinder or progress instead of promoting it.

I’m the poster child for “Don’t Do That” when it comes to being my own worst critic, so I’ve played opposing roles in a critique of Episode 50 to show how-to and how NOT to critique yourself so that you can progress in a positive way.

First, here are 5 points to remember when critiquing yourself

  • Be logical – Consider the facts, ignore emotion
  • Be willing to make corrections
  • Be forgiving – You cannot change what occurred, but you can learn from your mistakes and move on
  • Be constructive, not destructive
  • Think like your audience

 

Here are 5 points of concern I found in Episode 50 (there are certainly more than 5 concerns, but hey, if you prick me, I bleed). I listened as a harsh, negative observer and those critiques are the first in each point. Then I listened again as an objective observer and determined better, more constructive avenues to address the same issue.

  1. I HATE my voice.

No one likes their own voice. I know that as a fact, so I can logically throw that out as a critique.

       2. The audio quality is AWFUL!

I have a new mic and there are still tweaks to be made, but the audio is not, in fact, awful – it’s just different from what I’m used to.

       3. I need to shut up about irrelevant stuff.

I need to try and stay on topic and avoid going off on rabbit trails. Here, there is a sincere area I could improve upon, but this second avenue of critique is far more constructive than the blunt insult of first one.

       4. I’m too long winded.

Short and sweet is good, but don’t sacrifice a good story. This is a life journal podcast, so although I’m trying my best to be helpful, I also have the freedom to wax personal and tell stories. Good advice would be to remember to plan before I hit the record button so that I’m concise and any stories I tell are well placed.

       5. I’m too whiny about feedback.

Perhaps a pre-recorded call to action is in order. Here I see a need for improvement and after some thought, have devised a plan to solve the issue.

 

Berating yourself and being too harsh will get you nowhere - not if, but when - the time comes that you have to be self-critical. Be honest, yes. But be positive. Remembering the 5 points I listed will help you go a long way toward that goal.

This week’s Positive Review: Two movies – Florence Foster Jenkins Starring Maryl Streep/Hugh Grant and Sully Starring Tom Hanks

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